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Friday, 21 October 2016

Write Down Your Worries!

Daniel Wong's tips and articles are my favourite.

I returned home after 5 months being away from home, without coming back for even a holiday. I thought I would pay his article on a top student's principles a visit, and ended up browsing through his popular posts.

I came across this quote:

"In one experiment,[11] researchers at the University of Chicago discovered that students who wrote about their feelings about an upcoming exam for 10 minutes performed better than students who didn’t. The researchers say that this technique is especially effective for habitual worriers." (Daniel Wong, 2016)


It was under the subtitle "Write down your worries" in one article, I think something about study smart vs. study hard.

I was suddenly reminded of my anxiety before my Legal Research paper, I poured out my feelings in this blog. Hours after my exam, I regretted it. The previous purpose of this blog was to da'wah, and I ended up spilling out my personal anxiety and insecurities.

However, I felt comforted after reading Daniel's article. I remember feeling fine just before Legal Research exam, and how anxious I was before Tasawwur exam, where I did not write down my worries back then.

Then...
So be it.

I think, in dakwah we don't have to pretend when you accept the call to do good deeds, you will always be happy. That it will always be that "kemanisan iman" era.

You will still have problems. You will still have anxiety, insecurities, worries, calamities, and so on.

So let's keep it real.

The process of falling, the real process and progress of slowly, struggling to pick up the shattered pieces, gathering your courage, and painfully getting up. Back on your feet. Man up, build yourself again. All of that. We have to confront all these.

Keep it real and truthful. Don't hide behind "ketenangan" anymore. It is different when you need 10 minutes of dhikr then you feel energetic and when you need to cry in your tahajud every night begging for His mercy, strength and courage because you're so broken. The degree of brokenness is different. Don't cover that up.

From now on if people ask me if I'm okay, and I'm not, I will say no.
If I'm tired, I will say so.
When I'm worried, as I do now... on whether I had answered 'the rule of recognition' right, I will write it down. Be it on a piece of paper or on here.

No more pretending, that all will be well, just because of a single moment of submission. We are humans, our faith has its ups and downs. Let's keep that in mind. We trash our friends that voice their anxiety or hide away in sadness saying if you really are orang beriman and you perform your ibadah you wouldn't be like this.

But different people have different limits. They have different background, different tests, and we are in no position to judge that.

For the last time, let's keep it real.

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Iffah Nabiha

12.37 am, bonding with little brother in the living room








Saturday, 8 October 2016

Anxiety

Zikr, zikr, zikr.

And still, tears keep streaming.

While out there, I help to heal others from their anxiety, mentally or spiritually disturbed persons, I always, and always, put aside my own.

Legal Research in a few hours.
And I dont know how to express my anxiousness, but I really am, not okay.

Sujud.
Allah.

Shaking.
Heavy head.

Keeping it all contained, here - my blog, where no one in this place - dengkil, knows. At least im free to be me.

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Iffah Nabiha
8.55 pagi, meja belajar

Wednesday, 5 October 2016

Which part of your heart is broken?

You can keep running away
Exhausting yourself out

But it's always that.
The possibility of healing

Where you left the wound
Where  you moved on
You tried to forget

But you only found emptiness
Because you left a piece of you
Right there
Together with so much of your courage

The courage you used to have, facing everything

Now you really are on your own
You pushed away everyone, everyone who wants to get to know you
People betray you, and keep betraying

Your own race, you see their true colours now?
You realise, all those years abroad, you tried to defend your identity, what was that identity?
As you know now, it wasn't your country, it wasn't your race, it wasn't your fellow muslim comrades either.

So who did you have with you?

If you really do know what you are fighting for, you could easily answer "Allah."
But you can't.

You know why?
Because you are not doing it for Him.
Which part of your heart is more broken than the broken promises to devote your life for His deen?
Which part?

Which part?

Keep exhausting yourself out. That lack of sleep, that cold part of you, keep them. See how far you can get living like that.

Angkuh. Sombong. Padahal kau jalan di bumi Tuhan.

Which part of your heart is more broken than the broken promises to Your Lord?

Which part?

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Iffah Nabiha

UiTM Dengkil

5.06 am, 6 Oktober 2016

Saturday, 1 October 2016

Heartless Me?

Finals are getting closer.

Feeling so alone and stressed, because everywhere I go in this campus kalau tak jumpa someone who goes "Iffah kalau law subjects tak 4flat impossible" tak sah.

Starting to utter the word "Benci." so many times. The high expectations are back.


Decided that from now on I won't share the posts I write in this blog on Facebook or Twitter anymore. Let me pour things out here. I'm tired pretending or looking like I've got all my crap together, when truly, I don't. I'm always nervous, always anxious.

But all praises due to Allah, things seem to be eased by Him. Like He has been with me all along. So I don't understand what is it I keep on worrying about? I just can't help it. Though depression seemed like an episode I managed to pull through, anxiety is still there. 

I really do wish everyone around me realise I'm just as unprepared as they are. Just because I did well, or okay in the past tests and presentations and assignments doesn't equate to me passing finals,

I'm not prepared, kay? Stop saying that. It feels like I'm not allowed to make a mistake...

Nights when I could't sleep, I think I prayed to Allah to make people understand that more than I ask for my grades. Because, grades aren't everything.

I want to make my parents happy and proud though, more than anything.

Ah!! My tears. I don't know what it is, everytime I think about how much I want to make them proud, without telling this to them, my eyes just get teary.

I just want this for them so much.

I don't know whether it stems from wanting to prove that I am capable of doing law, or the fact that I want to show that all the sacrifices of our quality time are worthwhile, or just a simple "I want to make them proud". All I know is, that's just my way of manifesting my love for them.

Feeling so distant from everyone and they say I'm one heartless girl, concentrated on work, a typical lawyer material. Heh.

It's not that I pushed away everyone who wanted to get close to me because I'm heartless, but like one SMA member said,"Siapa je yang boleh keep up dengan cara VP kitaorang yang ke hulu ke hilir ni?"

Haih. I think so. Siapa je?

I get my satisfaction from helping people. One message reads "Iffah ada student perempuan ada masalah" and even if I was just about to terlelap after a long hectic week, I will be out of the house in 15 minutes. Tired, but satisfied six hours later. 

Maybe it's true what this one guy said, too. "I don't have time" is really my unsaid mantra.

Nervous. Just so nervous.
I'm so afraid if my anxiety will cause me jadi totally blank masa exam.
I can only doa doa and doa.
It doesn't help that my lecturers keep on saying the same thing as my friends say too. Stop it. I dooo nooot likee it.
Other people may see it as a compliment but I honestly honestly don't. Ia buat saya agitated. Faham tak?

Can't say these things to anyone, not even my roommate because I don't know how. Why am I so reserved nowadays? I used to be able to share my secrets with my bestfriends. Ever since I chose this path, I just turn away from facing the nightmares of my emotions by concentrating on my work. No wonder why they call me heartless. 

I just had to rant. I don't even speak to my parents of my anxiety for finals except for a few words like "sempat ke" or maybe "susah nak memorise cases". But nothing more than that.

It's also a good thing now that my blog doesn't have as many readers as it used to, I also shy away when someone approach me and speak of this blog. Why do I detest things that other people deem as compliments huh?

When am I going to stop ranting.
When am I going to study properly it's been 6 hours, ya Allah... Iffah.
Phone pulak rosak.

And what do I do with all these presents btw. They ain't buying my heart either. Ya, I find presents difficult to deal with. Except books and maybe food. Itupun I get scared if I have to react a certain way to the ones that gave me them. Entahlah.

SO insecure with bukannya orang lain but like. Myself.
Insecure dengan my own definition of success.
My ambition macam too high to achieve.
Maybe just lower my own expectation lah kan dah sendiri yang set my goals. But, I dont know why. Tapi I see something ahead of me and I keep telling myself I'm going to get there. 

Ya Allah, terangkanlah jalanMu bagiku.

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Iffah Nabiha,

UiTM Dengkil.

PS. Am I REALLY heartless though?

Tuesday, 13 September 2016

DALAM MENEGAKKAN KEBENARAN

Dalam menegakkan kebenaran itu, banyak caranya.

Asma' Abu Bakar menghantar makanan ke ayahandanya, pun diulang-ulang dalam sejarah.

Pahlawan-pahlawan Islam bertarung nyawa dalam Perang Badar dan Uhud, dijulang namanya.

Islam meraikan pelbagai wadah. Berbuat baik itu banyak caranya.

Kemudian ada juga yang hatinya di lain, namun dek kerana situasi tidak membenarkan, terpaksa memilih cara lain untuk berbakti.

Alangkah tidak adilnya mereka yang memperlekehkan usaha orang lain. Menyindir mahasiswa yang tidak turun berdemonstrasi, menyindir mahasiswa yang menyiapkan assignment, menyindir mahasiswa yang pulang ke rumah setiap minggu. Berhati-hati dalam menyindir orang tak kena masa dan tempat, kalau mahasiswa berkenaan pulang menjenguk ibundanya yang sakit? Kalau yang menyiapkan assignment tu cemerlang dapat praktik ilmu lebih dari dirimu?

Kau nak memperjuangkan kebaikan tak semestinya caramu sahaja yang betul. Kita boleh memperjuangkan nasib bangsa tanpa menghina bangsa yang lain. Kita boleh naik ke atas bersama-sama tak semestinya perlu tindas orang lain. Dakwah itu banyak caranya, salah satunya bukanlah dengan memandang sinis atas usaha orang lain.

You don't have to step over another in order to get to the top.

Ada orang fokus membaiki diri, kelak jika terburu-buru suruh orang lain lakukan sesuatu, kena bash pula 'cakap pandai diri sendiri tak buat'. Betul, islah nafsak wad'u ghairak, tapi, we are dealing with humans. Slow slow. Let them start when they feel comfortable.

Islam itu fleksibel. Work our way to jannah together. Don't step over one another.

Meniti hari-hari saya sebagai mahasiswi, memegang jawatan ini, banyak orang saya temui, tidak begitu berbeza dengan kawan-kawan saya beberapa tahun lepas sewaktu di UK. Bezanya kali ini saya perlu selesaikan masalahnya. Not just as a listener, as a friend. And they are much older. Takdela beza sangat. Kadang-kadang orang yang ditemui, saya tak kenal pun, dan tak tahu datangnya dari mana. It gets difficult sometimes, I have my responsibilities too.

It also shocks me, how very advanced our generation is. 'Kawan-kawan orang putih aku pun tak macam ni' banyak kali saya berfikir sebegini. It worries me, in many circumstances. I get worried about my studies along the way, dealing with all of this too, haha.

Dah lama tak mencoret dari hati sendiri. I really enjoy studying law, sometimes I still wish to study medicine. Other times I want to study linguistics. Many times I want to study Fiqh Usuluddin. A few times I want to study Psychology.

If only immortality is possible, I want to study every degree in this world. If only being at many places at a time is possible, I want to get involved in as many clubs in my campus as possible. If only we get more than 24 hours in a single day, I want to volunteer in as many organisations as I could.

But alas, I'm only human.

Back to original topic, saya rasa kurang senang dengan orang sekarang, particularly youngsters or slightly older, even. Yes what you are promoting is a good thing, but there is a better way to say what you're trying to say. Think for a moment, the audience you're targeting. What could they possibly be  facing? Life and people are a lot more complicated than just wasting time watching TV. There are those that waste time with their smartphones.  but I really feel uncomfortable with how some are very sarcastic towards university students that don't engage in the same activity as theirs.

Don't feel so great because of what you are doing. Jangan jadikan pahala amal kita, terhakis kerana rasa bangga kita kemudian pandang remeh pada orang lain. Kalau kita buat sesuatu kerana Allah, kita ajak orang lain juga kerana Allah. Sabarlah, dalam sesuatu masa itu, orang lain hadapi macam-macam masalah lain. Kita raikan mereka dengan memahami mereka. Ini karang just because they say no to you terus hentam like they don't support you. Membuatkan daku mengetap gigi kegeraman >.< (ada kah perkataan itu?)

Sekian. Rant over.

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Iffah Nabiha binti Ahmad Jailani

13 September 2016

Sunday, 14 August 2016

Istiqamah dan ikhlas

How do you know whether you're being ikhlas in your deeds?
...
Bila kau diuji atas amal baik kau, baik tidak dihargai kerananya (jika amal baik antara manusia) atau ibadahmu diperlekehkan, atau dikhianati oleh orang yang kau tolong, kau akan tetap meneruskan amal baik itu.

Kerana, sekiranya niat amal baik itu manusia, sebaik sahaja manusia berpaling darimu, kau terasa ingin putus asa. Kerana 'manusia' itu tak dikecapi.

Jika gred A itu tujuan kau menuntut ilmu, sebaik sahaja kegagalan menimpamu, kau akan merasa usahamu seolah-olah sia-sia.

Kalau yang menjadi matlamatmu dalam perkerjaanmu adalah kenaikan pangkat, sebaik sahaja pangkat itu menjadi milik orang lain, kau terus tidak mahu memberi yang terbaik dalam pekerjaanmu lagi.

Jika berpuasa isnin dan khamis itu untuk meraih pujian, apabila orang memperlekehkan amalmu, kau terus berhenti melakukannya.

Tetapi jika engkau melakukan sesuatu lillahi ta'ala, apapun berkunjung tiba, you stay on your course when you know it is true.

Tajdid niat bersama, istiqamah lah kita di atas jalan yang benar.

Buat kerana Allah and Allah alone.

Bukan yang lain.

Jadilah dirimu sendiri.

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Iffah Nabiha Ahmad Jailani

Uitm Dengkil, Selangor

Tuesday, 26 July 2016

Generasi.

Di Twitter kau kutuk mengutuk-ngutuk.

Di Snapchat kau record itu ini.

Di Instagram kau stalk si fulan dan si fulan.

Di alam nyata kau bergosip dan bercerita perihal si dia dan si dia. 

Bangsa lain berlumba menuntut ilmu. Tidak mahu ketinggalan. Zaman yang begitu demanding dari segi intelektual. 

Banyak masa kau, kemudian tatkala kau ketinggalan, kau marah-marahkan orang lain seolah-olah 'mengambil tempat kau'.

Kebodohan sendiri satu hal.
Menyalahkan orang lain satu kebodohan yang lain.

Lindungi kami dari membuang masa.
Lindungi kami dari menjadi orang-orang yang memakan daging saudara kami.
Lindungi kami dari memfitnah, mengeji dan megumpat.

Lindungi kami dari kehilangan tamadun dan nilai kemanusiaan.

Di era teknologi, lindungilah kami agar media sosial tidak merosakkan generasi bakal pemimpin kami.

Cukuplah dengan hari ini.

Fastabiqul khairat.

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Jumpa lagi, insyaAllah

Iffah Nabiha Ahmad Jailani

UITM dengkil
Selangor, Malaysia

Friday, 22 July 2016

Hitam dan putih

Dulu, teringin hendak cepat 'besar'

Rasa, bosan sungguh 'stuck' dalam belasan tahun. (Wait, I'm 18 so masih belasan tahun oops)

Dulu, tidak sabar hendak masuk umur dua puluhan itu.

Ingatkan, semakin tua semakin matang.

Tersilap, pengalaman yang mematangkan kita.

Bertemu dengan pelbagai insan, meredah pelbagai mehnah. Kali ini, seorang diri. Genap 3 tahun di tanah air, aku jauh berbeza. Jauh.

Baru 'evident', bahawasanya umur tidak membawa erti apa-apa. Kau 50 tahun hidup di bawah tempurung yang sama, kau akan tetap berfikiran serupa. Sempit, paling parah menyempitkan pula dunia kepada skop pemahaman kau untuk orang lain pula.

Di kala negara dilanda pelbagai musibah, di sekeliling kita terlepas pandang generasi muda. Kita lihat isu politik sana sini, one step back and look at a different part of the picture, kau akan nampak, masa akan datang, kita berdepan dengan masalah yang lebih besar.

Alangkah gelap dan menakutkan. Malah, untuk melangkah menjadi diri sendiri di tanah air sendiri, wallahi, your own people will be going against you.

Melayu, kau mengecewakan aku. Berkali-kali. Beribu kali kalipun aku perbaharui perspektifku, pecah berkecai juga sangka baik yang dibina itu.

Ke mana hala tuju kita sebenarnya?

Penat.

Turun dan naik. Atas jalan yang satu kemudian menyimpang seketika. I realised the reality of life. Sometimes, the decision you have to make isn't as clear as black and white. Sometimes, that grey area exists.

When i heard sometimes being good can be bad, and being bad can be good, i thought it was one of those lines that can drag you to the dark path. An unacceptable justification.

But as the years passed by, i went through a lot. I realised, that line is blurry.

It is at this part, the blurry part, that people get lost.

Truly, the past few years have prepared me for the present. I am truly thankful for all the mistakes i have made, the trials Allah placed me in, and everything I have learnt, both overseas and locally. The range of people I have met, and the different circles of friends i have had. Today, it all makes sense.

I have wondered whether I have a destiny. I have wondered why are there so many people against me, all these years. I have thought about the people who would stick with me, and what they have said to me. I gathered my thoughts, and heard this in my head.

"It is good that you have enemies. It means for once in your life, you stood up to something."

My journey, my growth, my past, my present, my future.

Ya Allah, bimbinglah hambaMu.

Iffah Nabiha Ahmad Jailani

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Uitm Dengkil
Selangor, Malaysia